#207-1. You can always tell who is an expert by how they talk about their field. The people who love what they do, can just talk without needing notes or props or anything. Successful people are their work.
#207-2. Trying to "fix" the people in your life that cause you pain is like massaging your shoes because your feet ache.
#207-3. The price of being a sheep is boredom. The price of being a wolf is loneliness. Choose one or the other with great care.
We have discussed here (and online here) earlier about the danger of trying to rigidly compartmentalize our professional and personal lives. Modern career gurus (including yours truly, I daresay) point out at the blurring of this boundary in today’s always-connected, internetworked society. Passion speaks and passion makes us fluent. My favorite advice to the young is: "Even if you are arguing or complaining, do it with gusto. Not half-heartedly. Whatever you choose to do, do it with life."
The only person we can hope to change is ourselves. Even that is difficult. But we try to delude ourselves that the problem lies outside, with other people or "in the system". And keep massaging the shoes. Sometimes you throw away and buy new shoes but can you always do that with people in your life? Analogies should not be stretched beyond their utility!
This is a profound bit of advice for anyone in the context of career, leadership, promotion and creativity. But this was topped by the comment from my 13-year-old nephew, who heard this and said: "I am like a dog. I like to be friendly with people but also know how to manage the sheep!"